Stop Saying These 5 Things to Others

In conversation, we easily fall into habitual speech patterns without realizing the subliminal affect our words might have on another person. We can put up barriers without realizing it. Just because everyone around uses a phrase, doesn’t mean it’s something positive to say. Here are 5 sayings to avoid: 1. Calm Down.  “Calm down” minimizes […]

Stop Saying These 5 Things Now

  Words are important because they give us clues as to what’s going on in our internal programming. When we’re talking, our subconscious mind reveals our perspective on ourselves and how we relate to the world. Here are some examples of common phrases that reveal negative thinking. If you catch yourself saying these, see it […]

The Fallacy of Being Fair

We hear it all the time. “It’s only fair.” “It’s only fair that you host 25 people for Thanksgiving dinner at your house this year.” “It’s only fair that your ex attends all family celebrations even though they always put a damper on the entire day.” “It’s only fair that you’ve put off your favorite […]

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Loneliness or Solitude: What makes the difference?

Being alone is often seen as a terrible circumstance. Yet, some people are extolled for living on a mountain top for 60 years… in seclusion. In today’s world, we meditate in solitude and enjoy quiet moments in total stillness. Or at least we dream about doing it. The fast-paced modern lifestyle chatters in our ears […]


Vicarious Grief: Allowing the choices of others to cause us pain

We’ve all experienced it. The phone rings and we learn that someone we care about has made a choice that is a sure recipe for trouble. They choose a romantic partner who will cause them heartache. They quit a great job in favor of a risky venture. They get into personality drama that will only […]

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Forgiveness and Closure: Putting down your glass

When we’ve been wounded through wrongdoing or loss, our natural response is to hold the energy of that wound close to us, nursing the pain and protecting it like we would a child. In that situation, it might seem like forgiveness would be allowing the culprit to get away free, as though our pain is […]